celina. (she/her)

how am i suppose to be strong when you're the weak one?

thatdiabolicalfeminist:

kerryrenaissance:

“Don’t say maybe when you mean no” is great advice, but…

…there are times when you say no. Repeatedly. And the other person questions your no. Argues with it. Lays in the guilt. Plays in your sense of obligation.

Until they get you to “maybe”.

And from there they use the maybe as a wedge to get you to “yes”.

Then if you later blow up at them and say, “I didn’t want to do that!”, they will say, “Then why did you say yes? Why did you say maybe?”

To be clear - this is abuse. If you can’t say no to someone, they are not a safe person because they don’t respect your boundaries or autonomy and are more interested in controlling you.